It’s July 2019, the day after my boyfriend’s birthday. Somehow I’m on the floor of the emergency exit corridor, locked out of the hotel room we’d booked for the occasion. I check my pockets. No key. No wallet. No phone. I do, however, have a watch. It’s 6am. I ring the bell. The metal door… Read More The day I decided to swear off alcohol for good.
By my own admission, I used to be a big drinker. Downing 6 shots in the first ten minutes was my pre-game; having a bottle (or two) by myself in a night was standard. Ten months ago, I decided to go teetotal. I still love going dancing in clubs though, and you can count on… Read More No-jito to Mojito: Tactics to stay dry at parties
I’m vegan and I’m in love with a meat-eater. When I first told my partner, T, that I was going to be vegan, he was really excited for me. He knew I’d been thinking about this for a while. Mixed-diet relationships can be difficult because eating is such a central shared experience, and I’m incredibly… Read More Honey, I’m a Vegan: 5 FAQs and how to answer them for a newly-vegan and non-vegan couple.
In my former job, I managed relationships for a living. Business development or bizdev, account manager, salesperson, partnerships manager…. Whatever the title, the core job description is the same: “I work with People.” Building, maintaining and nurturing relationships. This was what I was paid to do everyday for several years. And I was pretty good… Read More Friendship and Sales: 5 lessons from bizdev on being a better friend.
Saying no is hard. For a people-pleaser like me, saying no is a downright emotional roller-coaster. Waves of anxiety, guilt and self-loathing rise up whenever I think of saying no. Sure there’s some science that explains why saying no is unpleasant for most of us, linked to an innate desire to cooperate as social creatures,… Read More How to say no to your family and partner without being an asshole.
I had just finished reading Atomic Habits by James Clear, and was really excited about becoming 1% better every day through the power of small wins. Armed with my motivational psychology theories, I grab the biggest, baddest task I’ve been procrastinating. In the words of musical geniuses OutKast: “We gon’ break this thing down in… Read More Micro tasks: We know it works, but what size is just right?
I had a goal of reading 30 books. To do that, I had a routine all set up and ready to go: 1 hour before bed, easy peasy. Pat on the back, well done Sonia. You’ve got this. The appointed time comes around, I’m staring at the closed book, and go “nah… Not tonight. Maybe… Read More Designing a routine that can be kept.